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Ashley’s hashtags said “men are the worst” then listed some exceptions. My reaction when Rupert wasn’t listed as an exception: 😩😩😩


Sorry, Mandy. Time magazine put “Life Itself”, on their worst of the year list. Ouch! I still want to see it. However… Mandy just wrapped “Before You Know It” which has a funny plot summary on IMDb. And bonus: Tim Daly is in it. Isn’t he your guy, Ashley?!

Bonus #2: SAM Daly is in it.

He is Tim Daly’s son and, no lie, I one time had a dream about Sam Daly and he totally wanted to make out with me but I couldn’t because I loved his dad too much.

The summary does sound fun, and I’m always here for Tim Daly. And Mandy, honestly.

If anybody’s interested, Tim Daly’s currently onstage with his sister, Tyne Daly, in a play called “Downstairs.” We (Sara, Angela, and I) attempted to go see it when it was playing at the Dorset Theatre Festival in 2017. Unfortunately, rain and other circumstances beyond our control prevented us from getting to see it.

I have a VERY busy December coming up, but I just bought tickets to go see it before it closes in New York. The sacrifices I make, honestly.

Thank you Nazanin Boniadi (Fara!) for retweeting this: “No one ever asked me if I’m comfortable with a male president.” Apparently, only 45% of men would be comfortable with a female president. (FYI, Trump commented recently just to ingratiate himself that he “always believed women were smarter than men”.) And I just read the Nancy Pelosi NYTmagazine story. Said a male colleague to her 19 years ago: “Why don’t women just make a list of things they want done, and we’ll do them?” 😡 A great read!

A conversation (kinda) that I had with Sara on Wednesday evening:


I’m usually a better conversationalist, but… anyway, relevant.

Ashley, just wanted to know if you’re aware that your guy, Lin-Manuel Miranda, is receiving a Kennedy Center honor on December 2nd.

I was not!! It is hard to keep track of all of the honors that my guy receives, because his genius is unparalleled and he is just a perfect human.

He is also getting his star on the walk of fame on TODAY.

I finally don’t feel any grief or hate for this show – I know, it took a while, but hear me out. It seems that the perfect ending for HL would have been that moment in S4, when they sit together talking about Carrie’s father and the letters he wrote to Saul demanding she would be brought back from oversees. I love that scene. There is no unfinished buisiness (kiss never happens), they are sad he’s gone but they all are home.

Well, they
do say that time heals all wounds. They also say that hindsight is 20/20. 

I hope you don’t mind if I use your ask as a jumping-off point to articulate my thoughts re: fandom upset. 

back, it’s kind of easy to see how it all went off the rails. 

First of
all, Quinn should have died in the season five finale. Like, Quinn got exposed
to sarin gas in 5×09, and it was all downhill for him from there. He was in a
coma, they woke him up, he suffered a brain hemorrhage, and from there he
basically had no chance of recovery. They read the letter. Carrie seemed to be
letting him go, and even like she was prepared to help him along with it. I
remember, after 5.12 aired, I was pretty shocked and miserable and generally
disbelieving. And I had nobody to talk to, because I didn’t know you guys yet.

My friend
messaged me on Christmas night to talk about the finale, which he had just caught
up with. 

Friend: Merry Christmas. I saw the finale.
Though I think I need to see it again to reassess what happened. I like how
Quinn’s story ended (assuming it ended). Not so much Allison’s, though I
wouldn’t mind seeing Ivan again.
Ashley: I’m 99% sure that we will see
Quinn again. I liked Allison’s ending. It was very reminiscent of The
Ashley: Quinn’s ending made no sense
to me, but it does make sense that we’d be on opposite sides of this.
Friend: I kinda hope he’s not back. I
feel like they’ve gone as far as they can go with regard to abusing him.
The finale just pissed me off. It was a stupid cliffhanger, because it’s not
sustainable. Like, if Quinn is dead, then what’s the point?
I guess I saw it as them plainly stating that he is dead. She took off the oxygen
monitor because what’s the point anymore, and just wanted a moment alone with
I’ll be annoyed if that’s not what they’re doing.
She took off the oxygen monitor so that she could put him out of his misery
without arousing suspicion, but he wasn’t even on life support.
Yeah, that’s why I don’t think it was that. I don’t think she was speeding
things along so much as just silencing the room. 

had a million billion thoughts about the 5.12 finale, my favorite theory being
one that Dar Adal was just fucking with Carrie, but my friend’s comments really
exemplify why people used to pay him to watch, review, and analyze shit. He was
completely right. That ending for Quinn would have been much more respectful
than what we ultimately ended up with. I think it would have been a fine
contrast with Brody’s death, and I think it would have made for a tremendously
interesting character arc for Carrie in season six. 

the aftermath of 5.12, though, I remember how upset people were. I lurked
around the fandom until obviously I stopped lurking, but the impression I got (particularly in the carrie-quinn livejournal community) was irrepressible and universal sadness over his death. I was upset about it,
but not really that upset, because —
as you can see in the conversation above — I didn’t really get it. I also felt
like there were a lot of parallels to Jack Bauer in 24, and Jack had come back from
death a couple of times with few ill effects. Of course, this show is not 24.
But when Howard Gordon announced that Quinn would be returning, I felt very

the more involved I got with the Homeland fandom, the more it felt like everybody felt the same way as I did.
People wondered why we had ever believed
that Quinn had died, and I was just, like… mass hysteria? And I think that’s
true, but I don’t think the fandom ever recovered from that. It just became an
echo chamber. Quinn was our Tinkerbell and if we clapped hard enough, we could
save him. 

our indignant cries after 5.12 really were a factor in Quinn’s return. But I
don’t think so. I don’t think we ever had the influence we thought we did. 

I don’t know. I really don’t. I can’t understand the point of bringing him back
just to torment him for eleven-and-a-half more episodes and then kill him.

the part that’s upsetting, I think. I know a lot of people who quit watching
Homeland after season six, but who probably would have carried on with the show
if Quinn had died at the end of season five. His death at the end of season six
was a betrayal in a way that his death at the end of season five wouldn’t have
been. They gave fans room to exhale and an entire year to speculate on Quinn’s
future and what it might mean for Carrie and the show. By the time they put him
out of his misery for real, it was too late.

it’s been eighteen entire months since 6.12, and that’s the other thing. Time.

the great thing about television is that you really can pretend the show ends
before it gets to a point that makes you unhappy. For me, Buffy ends at the end
of season five (Once More With Feeling is Willow’s fever dream). Angel ends at
the end of season three. (I know that those are both BAD PLACES to end either
series, but what can I say, I love a miserable ending… I’m sure that Homeland
8.12 will be everything my masochistic soul desires.) 

keep on keeping on with your happy(-ish) ending. The show is what it is, and
will be what it will be. But thankfully the show is ending soon and, anyway,
none of us (except for Sara) MUST watch.

Anyone have plans to see Mandy in concert?

Probably not. I’m the only one who’d really be interested in that sort of thing, and a) none of the dates are really compatible with me and b) even if they were, they’re mostly sold out.

Sara and I are going to see Claire Danes’s husband onstage this week, though! 

Remember what Michelle Obama said. “When they go low, we go high.” Hit delete; don’t reply. (Hey, it rhymes!) My point: these Anons are probably drunk when they write in, and perhaps even forgot what they posted, or regret it the next day. Do us all a favor and don’t post any nastiness here. That goes for the Anons AND the replies. Isn’t it enough that we read about so much garbage everywhere else? I come here for fun!! Go high, Ladies. Stay high. (You know what I mean.)

How many of you guys are sending in drunk asks!? My goodness, I just send all my friends hilarious texts telling them how much I love them. 

Full disclosure, Sara totally deleted the last two asks and I was like, “no, I’m feeling frothy and I am going to ANSWER THEM.” 

And I gotta say, zero regrets the next day. Like, it might not be the nicest thing I’ve ever posted — I’m usually the very model of diplomacy over here (or, as my friend would say, YOU ARE DIPLOMASHLEY)… but sometimes you just gotta.

At least I’m funny? 

(We do love Michelle Obama, though, and Sara and I are totally psyched to go see her in Boston next month.)



CHICKEN 🐔! Next time try to be nicer, don’t be like your girl.

For fuck’s sake, guys.

It has been a year. More than a year. And we are still getting this nasty bullshit that is meant to, I don’t know, upset Sara? Change Sara’s mind? Like, OMG, some random anonymous person who really digs emojis thinks Claire Danes is a bitch. Compelling argument, and if there were a straight-up ZERO emoji I would use it right here.

Rupert Friend has moved on. If you feel like celebrating him, go visit our friends at @findmyrupertfriend. They’re into it. They have a whole blog about it. They love Rupert Friend and most of them could take Claire or leave her, though they’d probably happily leave her on the side of the road in Death Valley, and that’s totally cool with us. Because you know what? Our friendships aren’t based on loving/hating the same television shows, celebrities, baseball teams, weather patterns, sportswear brands or underwater creatures. (Dogs are non-negotiable.)

For real though, this is ridiculous. Rupert Friend does not need you fighting his battles for him. He just doesn’t. And, not for nothing, this weird thing that people seem to have about riding in like a white knight to defend him from some imagined insult or slight does NOT make him more endearing. On the contrary, actually, because you have sent us THREE ASKS in the past couple of days demeaning Claire Danes in order to prop up Rupert Friend. And, last I checked, Rupert Friend has a tendency to be a smidge douchey himself, so, check yourself before you wreck. your. self. Please and thank you.

I bear Rupert Friend no particular ill will, but if he fell off a cliff tomorrow I’d pretty much be sad that a) my friends would be devastated and b) that Peter Quinn would 100 percent be actually, actively, all the way dead and no amount of wistful “he’s on an island somewhere” would change that. But it has been pretty much eighteen entire months since 6.12, and if you’re still upset that he didn’t get a public “proper send-off,” well… I mean, whatever. I get it, but he did this whole press tour after 6.12. Rupert Friend clearly said goodbye on his own terms. 

And even if something did come out, even if Claire DID come out to the whole wide world and say, “you know, I actually really miss Rupert, he was a good egg and a solid friend and it was my life’s honor to work with him,” I’m pretty sure we’d still be getting this whiny-ass nonsense. It’d be insincere and too little too late and definitely not enough.

Which is also another point, because I’m sorry, but if Claire Danes is such an awful person that you feel the need to repeatedly point it out, then WHAT is the goddamn fascination with her validation of your love for Rupert Friend? 

I honest to goodness do not understand the point of these asks. If it makes you feel better, there’s not really any harm in it? But don’t expect us to post this shit (we delete almost all of it because WHAT IS THERE TO SAY) and frankly it’s annoying. Most of the time we just roll our eyes and delete and go on to live our lives.

But you, buddy, you’ve got FEELINGS. So I’m gonna let you express them, because it seems important to you that HYH air, acknowledge, and accept your grievances against a person you will probably never meet on behalf of another person you will probably never meet.

Hopefully this is the last I will EVER have to speak on the subject.

Oh, since it’ll definitely come up in your next ask, Sara’s no chicken. She just doesn’t want to waste her time.

I, on the other hand, have nothing better to do. PEACE.

Has anyone seen Michael Moore’s new documentary, Fahrenheit 11/9? I’m curious, but I feel like it will depress me even more than I am right now. What to do?

None of us have seen it, no. I saw Fahrenheit 9/11 in theaters, back in the day. But this new one? I dunno. I think that the intended audience is well aware of the situation. We (nobody at HYH, but the general electoral-college American “we”) elected a reality television star to the highest office in the land, and predictably enough, our country has turned into a reality television program.

Except so much worse. Because there are real life consequences here. People are losing their lives and their families and their homes as a result of the current administration.

We don’t need a documentary to educate us on this. We are all crystal clear on what is happening in our world. 

If you want to help, don’t go see Fahrenheit 11/9. You know the world is falling apart. 

Instead of spending money on a movie ticket, send those dollars to campaigns in your neighborhood. If you live in a liberal/reasonable place, then donate to a campaign for a candidate who is trying to make a difference in conservative strongholds. 

We have a chance to change direction and it would be tragic, depressing, and downright unconscionable to ignore them. 

Please, Senate democrats, PLEASE do the right thing. 

Hello, Homeland fans (or people who just think we’re neat). It…

Hello, Homeland fans (or people who just think we’re neat). It is time for another installment of “something that won’t ruin your life,” from HYH champion recommender, Ashley.

This week, after a six month gap during which time not one single member of this blog has stepped up, I am recommending the Netflix television programme, GLOW. 

If you’re not a fan of Alison Brie, don’t sweat it. I’ve been there. It is not a problem. 

I started watching it when the first season dropped back in 2017. And, to be honest, I wasn’t totally into it. But I watched it anyway, because 80s + wrestling + LADIES WRESTLING + Chris Lowell for some reason = everything Ashley could possibly ask for. 

Then the second season came out and I was like WELP guess I got nothing else to do and oh. my. god. Like, I watched a recap of the first season, ZOOMED through the second season, went right back to the beginning to watch the first season again, and immediately watched the second season again. 

The show is awesome, guys. So it starts out with Ruth (Alison Brie), a struggling actress who cannot get a break. Her BFFN is Debbie (Betty Gilpin), a hot blonde ex-actress who had spent a while in a coma on a soap opera before asking to be written off. Debbie is married to Mark and they have a baby because why be an actress when you can be a mom, amirite?



Ruth ends up at an audition for a new wrestling show which is being directed by Sam Silvia (Marc Maron). She has no idea what she’s in for and, by the looks of it, none of the other ladies do either. So when Sam is like “yo, this is a wrestling show,” half the ladies walk out. 

Anyhoozles they get into the auditions and Ruth immediately fucks it up, like, she is straight-up trying to make this silly wrestling show into High Art.  Literally, she ACTUALLY starts quoting Maggie from Cat on a Hot Tin Roof. (Actually, she does that when she decides “fuck this dude who told me I couldn’t be in the show, I’m gonna be in the fucking show,” but that’s still generally what got her kicked out in the first place.)


But because the show would not happen if Ruth didn’t get hired for wrestling purposes, she comes back. But TWIST Debbie shows up and they get into a major fight because Ruth did something VERY UNCOOL and there was BETRAYAL. 

And that’s where we’re at. 

The first season is about putting this wrestling show together. It’s produced by a dude named Sebastian (Bash) Howard who is all, YAY WRESTLING. But Sam is like, NO! ART!!! 

Gradually it turns more into YAY WRESTLING than ART and the show is so super fun. 


They are working with uncomfortable topics, like racism and sexism and all the -isms really, and the AIDS crisis gets thrown in. It’s a comedy that takes the problems of its time very seriously, and that’s refreshing. 

The show has a lot of heart and a lot of soul and they care SO MUCH about what they’re putting into the world, it’s obvious. It makes me happy and I think it will make you happy too. 

It might make you a little sad a couple of times, but it’s okay. The happies outweigh the sads like 15000 to 1.