I’ll be honest with you. I started writing a response to this, defending Carrie. Then I realized it’s the year 2018, not the year 2015, and I really don’t need to do that anymore.
People will hate Carrie for whatever reasons they want, though I hope you recognize that all the reasons you listed here exist entirely around Peter Quinn. In other words, the hate for this complicated, often heroic, difficult, occasionally kind, smart as hell, extremely selfish, sometimes horrible, but sometimes brilliant woman … is because of a man.